Friday, January 8, 2010

So let's see...

I thought I would try updating on a couple things that I initially wasn't sure I would share. I probably still won't go in to a lot of detail, but here is some of what I haven't really posted about in the last few months.

The kids and I moved out Saturday, September 5th. By the following weekend, their dad was no longer living in the house (which is right next door to his mom and dad's house), either. He ended up moving in with someone in a neighboring town. He then went almost 8 weeks without even calling, texting, or emailing me to ask about the kids, let alone see them. Finally he asked his mom to check with me about seeing them over at their house on Friday, November 6th, so they visited for a few hours. The following evening was my sister's wedding reception and his mom had offered to babysit the kids, so they went there again and I found out he was staying there temporarily. On Sunday, the kids and I all went over to visit. A few days later, he went back to where he'd been staying. He has seen the kids a few more times since then, including Thanksgiving and Christmas, but only that first visit was initiated by him. I receive no texts, phone calls, or emails from him asking about them or anything of that nature. Ryan rarely asks about him and Brooke is too little. Ryan did start to seem be really affected by not seeing him around the end of October and was starting to act out in school (a first for him) and more at home. I can't be sure that was the cause, but it seemed pretty coincidental. He's doing much better now and I am hoping that somehow won't change if there's another extended period without a visit. Anyway, now I am wondering how long it will be until their dad asks to see them again. Right now it's been since Christmas, so 2 weeks today...and counting...without even a text to ask about them....

On a happier note....I am still seeing the guy I mentioned in this post and things are going really, really well :-). His name is Joe and he is a divorced dad of an adorable little boy named Cole who is going to be 4 next month. He is very involved in Cole's life and has him at least half the time and I love that about him. He is an amazing father and he is so great with Ryan and Brooke, as well. We waited a bit before bringing the kids in to the mix to make sure this was something that was going to be long term. We were actually ALL together on New Year's Eve for the first time and it went really well and we had a lot of fun. I think we are all looking forward to more of that :-). Tomorrow Joe is coming out (it's his weekend without Cole) and we're going take Ryan and Brooke bowling or something. It was actually his idea for all of us to go do something rather than just he and I go out while my parents babysat. I think that's pretty awesome ;-).

And with that, I think I've shared enough for tonight :-P. LOL. Goodnight!

2 comments:

Anonymous said...

Congrats on the new guy. i hope that thinks work out for you and Joe. Your not the only one in your shoes. I wish you the best of luck.

JBGRIGS said...

I'm happy that you found someone who makes you happy again :)